Yesterday I deactivated my Facebook account for an indefinite period of time, in hopes of restoring a part of me that I am losing. This part of me is my ability to be alone, to think independently, to not rely on the approval of others, and to develop stronger, deeper, and more meaningful relationships. It may sound silly that I am retreating away from others in order to better connect with them, but this makes a lot of sense to me and I have had success with it in the past. When one is contently alone for awhile, happily curled up in the rich reserves of one’s heart, true compassion will naturally arise when one re-enters the company of others again.
Solitude is endangered in our society. The internet (specifically Facebook) and cell phones are especially addicting. A lot of people have not yet experienced the benefits of solitude, or maybe they personally don’t need it. That is not for me to know. And I do not imply that we should never use these tools for communication, but I have realized that a time away from them is beneficial.
Spending time alone at first can be boring. It can allow us to notice how restless we are. But at the same time, deep within, we know it is for the best. It is like taking a shower with the finest soap: surprisingly refreshing and gently cleansing.
Today I plan to spend time reading a book, writing in my paper journal, reading bible scriptures, sitting on my cushions with a prayer and my Creator, and stretching on my yoga mat to loosen the tension in my body, which at times I unfairly neglect.
Through solitude, we revel in our own joys. Learn from our own mistakes. Make our own decisions. And for just a time, we quiet the voices of everyone else, telling us to go this way or that way, telling us not to do something, or to do something different, in order to hear the true voice of God.